I was scrolling through my instagram feed when I came across post that read:
“Alpha females don’t run in packs”
This post prompted me to pause momentarily and to think about this declaration. I thought to myself, “it would be great to see a pack of ‘alphas’ running together.” So I posted that as a comment. I could tell immediately that my statement was not understood and I knew why. When you think of a pack of wolves, you envision a group of fiercely ferocious and stunning animals lead my the most ferocious and fierce among them; the alpha. You fear each one of them, you’re in awe of each one of them but there is a heightened sense of reverence for the “alpha” wolf. You can most definitely tell which one is the leader of the pack because the rest, while very close, are just a step behind allowing the “alpha” to lead.
Because of this picture in my head of a wolf pack being lead by one, I kind of agreed with one of the comments that said it would be too intense for the whole pack to be alphas. I logged off of Instagram and continued to watch my favorite show of the month (The Biggest Loser) and eventually drifted off to sleep with the image of an “alpha” female leading her pack in the back of my mind. It looked a little something like this:
We have all seen a representation of these girls in one movie or another. Taking away the fact that they are “mean girls” let’s examine them. What I see here is a group of girls who have it all (popularity, looks, style,brains etc.), but one of them has just a little more than the others donning her the “queen” of the group. Okay, this is not new thinking by far.. off to sleep for me.
When I woke up in the morning that post was still on my mind. I immediately went into my mother’s room and asked her “what do you think about a pack of alphas?” Clearly she had no clue what I was talking about by the baffled look on her face. So I elaborated for her telling her the story about the post and what my thoughts about it were. “I believe you can run in a pack full of alphas” I told her. “you most definitely can” she said. Then our conversation went on to solidify my belief. That Alpha packs do exist and they are impenetrable. They look like this:
They all look different, but equally as strong and you can’t tell which one is the “alpha”. That’s because they each are.
I think this stuck with me because there is such a misconception about being strong or being a leader. People associate leaders with one person in the front of a group or at the top of the pyramid while others follow behind. Thinking like this disconnects the leader from the rest. Would you really want to be the lonely one in the front or at the top with all of your followers behind you or below you? They’re together but because your the “alpha” or leader, you’re really alone. There’s a saying “it’s lonely at the top”. My thinking is it doesn’t have to be. Why can’t leaders or “alphas” run in packs? Wouldn’t that only add strength, knowledge and power to each one of them?
No one is great at everything so my vision of an “alpha” pack is a pack where all of them are phenomenal in their own way. Each of them a leader, but each of them taking the “alpha” role when necessary and each having the strength to hand over the role based off of the challenge confronted with. “In order to lead you must learn to follow” no words are more true in this context. “Alphas” build each other up, they follow each other, they make each other stronger, they are unstoppable because they can recognize the “alpha” in one another and respect it. When a challenge arises it is already conquered because it came to a group of leaders. Each leader has specific strengths and each of them are prepared to use those strengths at any given moment.I want to travel in a pack like that and create more alpha packs as my journey unfolds. I imagine this is what a pack of “Alpha” females would look like:
and boy oh boy, that’s the kind of pack I’m rolling with.
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